Dear parents and parents to be...

to have a kid is easy, but to be parents take a lifetime responsibility. It's not a task everyone can handle. So don't need to pressure yourself to be one. And by that, I mean not to have kids if you're not ready, or if you're not up for the lifetime responsibility. Raising kids are not the same as raising pets. While your pets also take your money, attention and love, they don't have common sense and free will. BUT your human kids DO.

Dear parents and parents to be...

raising a kid is not as simple as having money to buy them food, clothes, and diapers. It's not as simple as providing them with house to live on, food to eat, and clothes to wear. There are so many more. You are responsible to teach them how to walk, talk and think, to help them improve their skills and talents, to help them develop their emotion and mental state. You have to be ready for the 1001 "WHY" questions. You have to be ready to shower them with love, attention, and recognition. And for that, you have to prepare not only your financial, but also mental and emotional state.

Dear parents and parents to be...

pleaase be there for your kids and yet let them explore the world. Watch them become their own person, and be ready to be a place they turn to when they're confused, hurt, and feeling insecure. As you're their first love and home.

Dear parents and parents to be...

remember that you kid is a responsibility that God gave you to grow together as human being. Remember they're their own person, with different skill, talent, and purpose from you. Remember that they're not yours. Let them be themselves. Remember that having kid is like getting a surprise gift. You might like what is inside, and you might not like it. Therefore, before you have kids, or before you regrets something, be prepare when your kids are different from the rest.

Dear parents and parents to be....

the world is huge and full of diversity. It's a great place for your kids to grow. Let them grow according to their talents and purposes. If they're feeling insecure or afraid, be there to support them. If they can't learn as fast as other kids, let them have their time to learn. Don't rush them. If they're different, then accept them as they are. Because you're their world, and you mean everything to them. You have a great impact on WHAT kind of person they will be. You have a great impact on HOW they grow and value themselves. You have a great impact on HOW they see the world.

You're once a kid yourself, you knew how it is to be a kid. But your kid never know how it feels to be parents. Please don't forget that.

Dear parents and parents to be...

even as a little human, your kid is a master of learning. They see, they hear, they learn, they do. Don't be quick to get angry and label them, as they have reasons for whatever they do. If they're being naughty in your point of view, please think back... they might do that to get your attention.

Dear parents...

REMEMBER that YOU ARE THE WORLD for your kids.

They crave for your love, attention, and recognition. They watch you and your responses. They listen to things you said. They watch you and they remember.

So.. have you said you love them today? Have you appreciate the little things they do for you? Most of the time, what they do might seems like extra work for you, but their intention might be to help you. They're just clumsy and still learning how to do it the right way. Appreciate it anyway.

Dear parents and parents to be....

no kids in this world have ever asked to be born. Who asked for a kid is YOU. Having kids and become a parent are your own choices. I know the society tend to push you to marry and have kids, but you have free will. When you decided to have kids, it's your responsibility to raise them properly.

Dear parents to be...

if you're not ready, please don't have kids.

Not everyone are meant to be parents. Some are just not meant to be, some are not ready yet. No need to feel inferior and incomplete if you don't want to have kids. It's your rights. Once you decided to have kids, there is no turning back. STOP making a human full of trauma and wounds.

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Being parents is hard and complicated. But you decided to be one anyway. So face the consequences and take the responsibility. PERIOD.

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This Dear Series is something new that popped up in my head. The idea of this series is to explain whatever struggle I have in my daily life, issues that I think about, and things that I want to convey to someone/others but can't. I will not censor anything, I will not polish the words, I will write it as what I think it as... You can skip if it's too much for you to read or if you think this is a non-sense.

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